So, immediately after Rachel caught the bouquet, Ross ran out to the dance floor and got down on one knee to propose to her.
She said yes and so obviously this shifted all of the attention onto Ross and Rachel.
Everyone surrounded them to congratulate them and then Rachel asked the DJ to play “their song” for them to dance.
The DJ at least did apologize afterward, he said that because the song she asked for was already on our playlist he thought the proposal had been planned by us.
Of course, that completely derailed the next few things we had planned.
I already wasn’t happy about this because we only had the photographer available for a certain number of hours.
I was worried about going off the schedule.
What really upset me was that I could see that my wife’s feelings were obviously very hurt.
The reason? None other than Ross and Rachel were stealing our thunder.
My wife is really not the type of person to want a lot of attention or to be comfortable spending a lot of money on herself.
So our wedding was the one special day when she was able to do so without feeling guilty about it.
Seeing our wedding get ruined for her because of Ross and Rachel was awful.
So, at the very least, we could enjoy the rest of the night.
Ross started arguing with me saying that I was acting nuts, which caused more of a scene than I expected or wanted.
Because, a small group of our wedding guests overheard the conversation and jumped in with their opinions.
Some people just told us to let it go, forgive and forget. “Be the bigger person” was thrown around a lot.
A few members of my wife’s family tried to get involved, offering to “handle” Ross and Rachel if they didn’t want to leave.
I told them I appreciated the sentiment, but both my wife and I knew that trying to escalate the situation.
Would just lead to more people being on Ross and Rachel’s side.
Ross and Rachel did ultimately agree to leave.
However, for the rest of the night people were talking not just about them getting engaged but also about me kicking them out.
Everyone was on our side, thankfully, but that didn’t make matters much better.
My wife and I weren’t happy that people continued to talk more about Ross and Rachel.
The reason we wanted them to leave was because we didn’t want to keep being reminded all night of the stunt they had just pulled on us.
Instead of being able to simply celebrate our marriage with our friends and family.
The thing is, a lot of mine and my wife’s family members are pretty spread out.
So the majority of people that made it to the wedding are actually people that we don’t get to see very often.
Which adds to the effect it had on my wife when the purpose of our night was completely hijacked.
My wife has since said that it was wrong to kick Ross and Rachel out.
She said, we should’ve pretended to be happy for them in the moment so as not to further ruin the night.
Because people would have talked less about it that way, as though that would be any better.
Rachel’s mother has also complained to my wife’s mother about me kicking them out.
Saying that we should’ve brought it up to them privately later instead of letting a faux pas turn into a squabble.
Because now that’s the only thing anyone is going to remember about our wedding and/or about Ross and Rachel’s engagement.
Personally, I think it was better to have it taken care of sooner rather than later.
And I hope this isn’t going to cause any ill will with the rest of the family
I do still think that Ross and Rachel, mostly Ross, were total jerks in this situation, but was I also?
For anyone left wondering, haven't left for the honeymoon yet, but we're going to Greece!
I’m happy I’m still able to take her there, and that this situation didn’t leave us in a sour mood.
Here’s hoping we don’t get interrupted there as well!
