A woman and her ailing mother hug after discussing elder care.

Discussing Elder Care with Your Ailing Parent

It used to be your parents’ job to take care of you, but the roles reverse as your parents age, and now it is your turn to ensure the best for your ailing parent. Unfortunately, life is busy, and you can find yourself neglecting their needs as you manage the hustle and bustle of your daily responsibilities. If you feel you do not have the time to properly care for your parent then you need elder care, but it can be difficult to discuss this alternative with them. There are a few ways to make the conversation go smoothly as you explain how elder care is the best solution for everyone.

A Little Planning Goes a Long Way

You should avoid bringing up the topic when senior care is absolutely necessary. It is a better idea to introduce the subject when there are other family members present and when it’s not a pressing issue. This allows you time to discuss the option in a way that is relaxed and less stressful. The discussion forum should be open for everyone to express their concerns.

Be Ready for Questions

Making the move into an assisted living facility is life-changing, and your ailing parent is sure to have some questions and concerns. Before bringing up the topic, it is important to do your homework. First review your options and take the time to look over their websites and brochures. To better prepare yourself for the conversation, visit some local facilities and speak with the staff about common concerns and their solutions so you will be better prepared to speak with your parent.

Be Prepared to Speak About Finances

Discussing personal finances can be a touchy subject, but this area must be explored if you are planning to have your parent receive elder care. Whether your parent has a healthy retirement fund or is living on a strict budget, you must properly understand their position. If you have trouble delving into the topic, it may be a good idea to get the help of a financial coach.

Have an Open Mind

While you are likely thinking about all the reasons why senior care is a good idea for your ailing parent, it is crucial that you engage in the conversation with an open mind. After all, it is your parent who is going to have to make the life transition, and you should listen to their concerns. Really listen to what they have to say, and do everything necessary to ensure the questions and concerns they have are properly addressed. At the same time, let them know what is on your mind, and express to them the reasons why you believe elder care is a good idea. When you come to the table prepared, you have a better chance of sharing positive dialogue. Keep in mind, though, this is your parent’s life and therefore you should respect their wishes.

Last Updated: January 08, 2015