Planning a wedding can be one of the most exciting and stressful times in your life. There’s often a lot of pressure from family and friends, and there’s plenty of media hullabaloo attached to wedding planning that increases that pressure even more. Try to separate myth from fact when you’re planning your wedding, and it’ll help you relax a bit under the stress of it all.
It’s Your Day
While it’s true that the day does revolve around you and your partner, it’s likely that there are more than a few family members and friends who have supported you and your partner along the way, so weddings tend to be as much about appreciation to those people as they are about you. If your parents or in-laws are helping you pay for the big day, then chances are that some of the decision-making will be as much about compromising as it is about your opinions.
You and Your Partner Will Become Closer Throughout the Wedding Planning
Actually, wedding planning can be quite stressful. Don’t expect everything to be hunky-dory leading up to the big day. You may get in a few arguments or have a few stressful nights with your partner, so it’s important to be prepared for it. If you expect everything to be perfect, you’ll be upset and confused when things don’t turn out exactly as you’d hoped.
Everything Must Be Perfect
Your wedding day doesn’t have to be a scene taken from the movies or a bridal magazine. People enjoy weddings that are fun and relatable. When you try to make everything perfect, it can come off as a stiff and over-planned. Try to plan a wedding that’s relaxing and fun for you and your guests.
You Shouldn’t Pick the First of Anything
Don’t be scared away from the myth that says you should shop around for every detail. If you fall in love with a dress, venue, or vendor upon first glance, then don’t second-guess yourself. You’ll end up wasting a lot of time and effort shopping, and it can make you indecisive in the process.
Your Wedding is the Time to Spend Money
Fact: Weddings are expensive. But that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t budget yourself or try to save money on purchases.
You Have to Do Every Age-Old Tradition
Who cares if you don’t wear a white wedding dress? Do you really believe that it’s bad luck to see the bride before she walks down the aisle? Why do you even need something borrowed or something blue? Traditions can be great, but don’t get tricked into thinking that somehow these traditions decide the fate of your marriage.
You’ll be in a Constant State of Sheer Joy
Real life is awkward, embarrassing, and stressful. The movies always show perfect engagement and wedding moments full of surprise, tears, and joy. In reality, you might feel confused or nervous. Think about it. You may be nervous about the big change in your life that is about to occur. Or, as you walk down the aisle, you might be just as nervous about the fact that everyone you know is suddenly staring at you and smiling with high expectations. Allow yourself to feel what you feel and tune out the pressure from everyone telling you that you must be perfect.